After the Red Zone: How Faith Communities Can Support College Students Returning Home

The Christmas season is a cherished time for faith communities, as college students return home after months away at school. These young adults are often the same kids we’ve watched grow up in church—singing in the children’s choir, serving on the youth usher board, and memorizing Bible verses during Awana nights. We welcome them home with joy and open arms.

But as we celebrate their return, we must also be mindful. Some of these young people may be coming back carrying painful, life-altering experiences. Research shows that 50% of campus sexual assaults occur between August and November, a period known as the “Red Zone.” According to the Know Your IX 2021 Report, 39% of students surveyed said they had to take a leave of absence, transfer schools, or even drop out altogether after experiencing sexual violence.

When a Young Person Has Experienced Sexual Violence

When a young person shares that they’ve experienced sexual violence, the most powerful first response a faith leader can offer is belief. Telling someone, “I believe you. You are brave. God loves you and is near,” can be life-changing. Avoid asking for details unless they choose to share. Simply listen with empathy, resisting the urge to offer explanations, advice, or opinions. Their story belongs to them, and being heard without judgment can be the first step toward healing.

It’s also important to understand the practical challenges they may be navigating. Gently ask how they’re managing the investigatory process, if one is underway. Are they receiving support from their school? Do they have or need a protection order? Is there anything they or their family need during this time? If the school is nearby and you have the capacity, consider offering to attend a hearing or meeting with them as a show of support. Just knowing they are not alone can provide comfort during a deeply isolating time.

Finally, encourage them with messages of faith and hope. Share scriptures that remind them of God’s healing and restorative power, such as Psalm 34:18: “The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.” Offer the promise of Jeremiah 30:17: “But I will restore you to health and heal your wounds.” Help them see that while the road to healing may be long, they are never beyond God’s reach. His love is ever-present, even in the darkest valleys.

When a Young Person Is Accused of Harm

As difficult as it may be to confront, some returning students may be accused of causing harm. Churches are called to be spaces of truth, justice, and restoration—even when facing uncomfortable realities. Approaching these situations with both grace and accountability is essential.

Start by engaging the young person and their family with honesty and compassion. Let them know you are there to support them spiritually, while also encouraging them to take legal concerns seriously. Avoid asking specific questions about the incident—those are matters best handled by legal professionals—but remind them that their actions have consequences, even as they remain deeply loved by God.

Talk openly about the importance of making better choices moving forward. Emphasize that while redemption is possible, it begins with accountability. Encourage them to participate in therapy or counseling and to accept responsibility where appropriate. At the same time, be present for their family, who may also be grappling with shame, confusion, or grief. Help them process their emotions, offering spiritual counseling, guidance, and emotional support in a compassionate but honest manner.

No matter what a student has experienced—or is accused of—faith communities have a responsibility to be places of healing, accountability, and hope. By responding with love, truth, and support, churches can reflect Christ’s call to care for the brokenhearted and guide all toward restoration.

Let’s be the Church that shows up when it matters most. Contact Command Joy Co. today to learn how we can equip your faith community with tools for creating a safe, supportive, and accountable environment. Together, we can make a difference.